No successful person ever got to where they are in life, by being comfortable. Success often comes by taking another step forward.
This is because things don’t just come to you, you have to get out and get them for yourself.
You shouldn’t be afraid to this, because everything you want, everything you need to become the person you are meant to be or rise to your full potentials are on the other side of those things that terrify you.
So, are you going to get out and take it or will you cower in fear and remain in your comfort zone?
1. Identify And Know Those Things That Are Outside Your Comfort Zone
What are the things that you believe are worth doing but, are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?
Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts but, your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.
2. Clarify What You Are Trying To Overcome
Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.
How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.
Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your look? Or, are you afraid of being ignored?
3. Get Comfortable With Discomfort
One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to expand it. Make it your goal to avoid running away from discomfort.
Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort.
If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable. Do uncomfortable things often, the more you do those things, the more comfortable you become with them.
4. Let Failure Teach You, Learn
Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.
Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?
Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Whenever you fail or miss what you want, but take away a lesson from it, then you really didn’t lose anything.
5. Baby Steps Are Fine
Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in. Don’t rush it, just ease into, let it come naturally.
Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome.
If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.
6. Make Friends Who Are Risk Takers
There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them.
Almost inevitably, their influence will start to have an effect on your behavior. Before you know it, you become like them.
7. Be Honest About Why You Don’t Want To Do Something
Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this” Or say “I am too lazy to do this”.
Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward of you are truthful about it.
8. Keep In Mind What Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone Will Do For You
What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.
9. Learn To Laugh At Yourself
Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes.
Risk-taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.
10. Focus On The Fun
Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.
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