We know a Facebook gigolo who specializes in dating single mums. According to ongoing research by coven members, he preys on their desperation to marry, sleeps with them and collects their money.
Once or twice, the man in question impregnated one of these single mum, increased her burden and ran away. Interestingly, these kind of men abound on social media and real life.
Like you already know, Nigeria is a tough place for the single mum, she is called many sinister names “Second hand”, “after one” she is thought “unfit” and often tormented with shame for the rest of her life. Except she is “rescued by a man” and don’t think the shaming stops, the man just takes some part of it and make her “dignified” again.
Due to this, many men think that marrying a single mum is doing her a favour, cleaning her shame, in Tyler Perry’s language, saving her life. Hence it is important that the single mum treads carefully, even more than the single girl when it comes to dating and choosing a spouse again. It is important to choose a man who truly accepts you and your child as the full package.
Here’s a real life story to drive this home, two men approached my friend who is a single mum.
Man A upon meeting her son, “Wow! He is so adorable,
“I will raise him like my own, it doesn’t change how much I love you,
“I still want you, in fact I want both of you”
****hugs and kisses
Man B upon meeting the son, “I can’t believe you have a son, you don’t look it at all,
“Hian! When did you have him? What about the father?
“Ermmmmmmm, I have an emergency, I will call you later.”
By the end of the day, Man A has called like 10times, Man B is still caught up in an “emergency”
Two days later,
Man B calls, “I’m sorry I ran away oh, I swear, I like you but I can’t marry “after one”
He explains further, only, silence would have been more comforting.
Phewwww! Thank God Man A wasn’t that insensitive
3 week later, Man A calls, “Madam, why didn’t you pick your calls since?
“Busy doing what? You took your bastard to the hospital, is that why you didn’t pick my calls?
“Now that you have seen someone that wants to manage you and him, you are misbehaving…”
What should a single mum look out for as she finds a man again?
Share your thoughts.